A kid craves the other sex, and gets it. On himself
Eli, as friends and family call her, lives in Madrid with her family. I first met and photographed her when she was ten years old and little more than a child. I returned to Madrid in the following years – when Eli was eleven, fifteen and then eighteen – where I stayed for several weeks, living in close contact with Eli to document her daily life and the highlights of her growth. Over the years, a strong and sincere human bond was created with his entire family, based on the consciousness of a common battle, that for the right to be oneself.
When Eli was only two, her parents realised that their son felt like a girl and that her biological sex didn’t match with her genre identity. At first her parents were concerned about this behaviour, but finally they understood that the most important thing was for their child to be happy and free to be what she desired. At age 9, Fernando officially became Elian – the male name has been changed on all her documents – and at 11 she started taking a testosterone-suppressor, a medicine with reversible effects.
At the age of 13, Eli began taking estrogen in order to adapt her body to her gender identity, and at the age of 18, in 2022, she underwent sex-change surgery.
Several recent studies show that suicide rates among adolescents and trans adults are far higher in the rest of the population. One of the main causes can be traced to a life spent suffering constant repression from family members and a society that still tends to discriminate against them. Eli’s mother is the coordinator of families of transgender youth at the COGAM association in Madrid, which is committed to helping these minors grow up without stress in a society that recognizes their rights.
Today Eli is a strong and aware woman, she takes part in several events for LGBTQ+ People’s rights, studies international relations, and dreams of having a family, while her main aim in life is to be happy.